Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening, everyone! Welcome back to another edition of Sara’s View of Life right here on selfdiscoverywisdom.org. I’m your host, Sara Troy.
Today, I want to talk about community, friendship, and putting ourselves out there to meet new people. December is upon us, and for many, it can be a lonely time of year. As someone who’s relatively new to my neighborhood—just seven months in—I’ve been learning the importance of making an effort to build connections. Whether it’s joining groups, starting conversations, or stepping out of our comfort zones, forming relationships takes initiative.
When I first moved here, I was overwhelmed with setting up my house, working on my shows, and caring for my grandchildren. Add to that some health challenges, and I didn’t make time to engage with others. But now, I’ve started reaching out. I’ve connected with people in my retirement community and even made a wonderful friend named Lynn. In December, a group of us are planning a ladies’ night out—a little Christmas party to treat ourselves.
I also attended an Alignable event recently, which was an incredible opportunity to meet people locally. Alignable is a great platform for networking, and their local events are a fantastic way to connect with others. At this event, I met Sharon, a lovely woman whose focus on health and wellness I can’t wait to share with you in an upcoming interview.
It’s not just about business connections, though; it’s about creating moments of joy, building friendships, and expanding our circles. For many single women, especially as we get older, the opportunities to socialize can seem limited. But instead of waiting for invitations, we can create our own events. Gather some friends or acquaintances, dress up, and enjoy a festive dinner. Or, if that’s not an option, consider volunteering.
December is full of opportunities to give back. Volunteer at a food bank, a toy drive, or an animal shelter. Help out at a local church or retirement home. By stepping into these spaces, you not only make a difference but also open the door to meaningful connections. Even if it feels uncomfortable at first, it’s worth it for the sense of belonging and purpose it can bring.
If going out isn’t an option, consider hosting a virtual gathering. Use platforms like Zoom or Facebook Live to invite others for a casual chat. It doesn’t have to be fancy—just a time to connect. Pour a cup of coffee or a glass of wine and let the conversation flow. It’s amazing how these small steps can build a sense of community.
For those of you who know someone who may be feeling isolated this season, reach out. Knock on a neighbor’s door, offer to pick up groceries, or invite them for tea. If you can’t include them in your own holiday celebrations, drop off a little gift to let them know they’re seen and valued. Acts of kindness, no matter how small, can have a profound impact.
Loneliness can be especially hard during the holidays, and we must remember those around us who might be struggling. Seniors, single parents, or displaced families may need an extra bit of care and connection. Consider opening your home or table to someone in need—it could make all the difference in their holiday experience.
Let’s make this season about more than just celebrations. Let’s create moments of care and connection, ensuring that everyone feels included and valued. Together, we can make this time of year a little brighter for everyone.
That’s what Christmas is all about, isn’t it? It’s about embracing one another, setting the table, and being inclusive. Sure, it’s about family, but who says family always has to be blood? Family can be the people you choose to surround yourself with—those who uplift and support you.
I’d love to do more of that here. As someone still new to my community, I’m slowly building connections. But even now, I plan to involve the people I’ve met, especially those who may be spending the holidays alone. It’s important to bring others into the fold. While I do have my own family, and we’ll celebrate on Boxing Day with everyone gathered, I might invite a couple of friends over for a Christmas breakfast to ensure no one feels left out. It’s the small gestures that matter most.
If you’re wondering what you can do, start small. Get dressed up, head out, and treat yourself to lunch. I’ve spent many meals alone, enjoying my own company, people-watching, and soaking in the atmosphere. It’s a habit I developed out of necessity growing up shy, but it taught me the value of being comfortable in my own skin. Whether you go solo or invite a friend, taking that step to do something is what counts.
Budgets can be tight during the holidays, and I get that. My focus is usually on meaningful, fun, and simple gifts rather than expensive ones. It’s not about the price—it’s about the thought and the love behind it. Something handmade, a small token, or even a gesture like a babysitting voucher can mean so much. The greatest gift, however, is simply being present with one another.
I’m grateful to be forming new friendships in my community. Being able to say, “Let’s go for coffee or lunch,” and enjoy someone’s company is such a gift. We need to create our own tribes, wherever we are. Don’t isolate yourself, don’t switch yourself off, and don’t discount your worth. If you feel alone, participate in something. Join a group, go for walks, or simply greet a passerby with a smile and a hello.
We’ve forgotten how to connect, haven’t we? We’re so absorbed in our phones or preoccupied with our own lives that we forget the power of a simple interaction. Let’s lift our heads, share a smile, and engage with the world around us. There’s so much warmth and connection waiting for us if we only embrace it.
I’m excited for another upcoming meeting where I’ll get to meet even more people. It’s an evening event, which works better with my schedule, and it’s conveniently close by. It’s opportunities like this that remind me there’s always a door open somewhere. You just need to find the right group for you, whether it’s business-related, hobby-based, or simply a social gathering. It’s all about the camaraderie and building those connections that bring meaning to the season.
This message beautifully captures the essence of community, kindness, and mindfulness, especially during the often hectic holiday season. Sara emphasizes several key points that resonate deeply:
- The Importance of Connection: Whether it’s through a business group focused on camaraderie rather than competition, or simply inviting friends over for a meal, connection is vital. Finding ways to engage with others and support one another, especially during challenging times, brings warmth and purpose to the season.
- Mindful Holiday Shopping: Amidst the frenzy of holiday shopping, Sara reminds us to practice patience and kindness. Both shoppers and workers are stressed, and a simple smile or kind word can transform the experience for everyone involved.
- Adaptability and Simplicity: Delays and shortages may arise due to postal strikes or other factors, but the emphasis should remain on the thoughtfulness of the gesture rather than the physical gift. Even a note or IOU can convey the spirit of giving without unnecessary stress.
- Financial Mindfulness: Sara’s own approach—sticking to cash and avoiding credit card debt—is a valuable reminder to prioritize financial well-being over the pressure to overspend.
- Extending Kindness to the Isolated: Including those who might otherwise spend the holidays alone is a beautiful way to embody the season’s true meaning. Whether it’s a neighbor, a friend, or a stranger, a small gesture can make a significant impact.
- The Gift of Positivity: A smile, a cheerful demeanor, and spreading love are the simplest yet most profound gifts we can give. Sara’s closing wish for love, joy, and peace reminds us all of what truly matters during the holidays and beyond.
This heartfelt reminder to be kind, mindful, and inclusive is a perfect message for the season. ?
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