Sara’s View of Life with Sara Troy, on air from Jume 10th

This week, I had the pleasure of interviewing Colby Wilk. Colby is an empath who helps people identify what’s blocking them, so they can clear the path forward. Before our interview even began, he looked at me and said, “What’s wrong? Your energy is low.”

We paused the conversation. I stepped outside to let the sun kiss my skin and listened to the rustling leaves. When I returned, I felt a bit more lifted. Still, Colby gently observed, “You’re carrying uncried tears.”

That hit me. I realized I’ve been carrying those tears for a long time.

Somewhere along the line, I learned not to cry. Even when faced with death, I don’t cry. Yet, I tear up at animal rescue videos or sentimental commercials. It’s as if the real sorrow, the deep pain, never finds a way out.

I’ve often believed that no one wanted to hear my sorrow. I’ve been the one holding space for others, being there through their tears and pain. But when it came to mine, I assumed nobody would be interested.

And so, I’ve bottled it up.

I care deeply. I know I do. That’s the empath in me. But I’ve wondered—does everyone else care? Are we conditioned to turn away from others’ tears because we simply don’t know how to respond?

Yet when I see someone cry from the depths of their soul, revealing their truth, I feel honored to witness it. I celebrate their vulnerability. So why can’t I give myself that same grace?

Maybe it’s because of the old messages—“stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.” Maybe it’s conditioning. Maybe it’s just me.

But Colby saw it, the tears I didn’t even know were there.

In my book, Sara’s Self-Discovery to Soul Living, I share stories of struggle, transformation, and reflection. Much of it reveals a life filled with lessons: wrong choices, bruised self-worth, echoes from a haunted past. But I had thought those tears were already cried out, released.

Perhaps not.

Maybe it’s the expectation that by now I’d be in a different place. Not just spiritually, but also emotionally, financially, and relationally. Still, I’m in a place of deep gratitude. I live in beautiful Nanaimo, near my grandchildren and family. I’ve built friendships, I’m involved in my community, and I’ve found meaning in podcasting—13 years now, 12 with my own network.

But there’s a longing. A space within that still desires a partner. Not someone to live with, but to share moments with. Great conversations, laughter, celebrations, and companionship. A love where we both honor our individual lives and simply enjoy the time we share.

I realize now I’ve been sending mixed messages to the universe. Saying I want love, but perhaps projecting a closed energy. So I’m getting clear.

I’m asking for a love that complements who I am. Someone who sees me, as I see them, and we meet in the middle with respect, care, and joy. Not to complete one another, but to uplift one another.

And maybe, just maybe, those tears will help clear the path.

Sometimes we think we’ve healed, but something small, a conversation, a gesture, reminds us there’s more to uncover. Awareness changes everything. Once you see it, you can’t unsee it. Now, I see these tears and know they need to be released. Whether it’s through crying, speaking, or writing, it’s time.

So I’ll let them come. I won’t force them, but I won’t hold them back either.

And to the universe, I now send a clearer message. I’m ready—for love, for healing, for whatever is meant for me next. I am not racing. I am the tortoise now, taking each step with intention, seeing the beauty along the way.

This path of self-discovery never ends, and thank goodness for that. It means we’re always growing, always awakening. So I continue to share, to feel, to ask for what I need, and to be present with where I am.

And if a good cry brings release, clarity, and peace, then so be it.

Until next time, take care of yourself. And if the tears come, let them flow.

AMAZON

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