Choose Positive Living with Sara Troy and her guest CAROL L. REMZ, PhD, on air from November 26th
What would motivate an almost 80-year-old woman (hitting the milestone Christmas Eve 2024) to write a book about the CAROL L. REMZ, PhD, Best Sex Ever After Menopause?
At a time in the Zeitgeist stressing, the urgency for women to stand up, unite and take their power back, Carol Remz isn’t pulling any punches – it’s because menopause hit her early (mid-40s), causing a loss of libido and vaginal dryness over the next ten years. And her being married to a seven years younger husband who wouldn’t accept her declaration that sex wasn’t supposed to matter after menopause.
When she had reclaimed her sexuality, her husband said, “Write a book. Tell your story about how you healed and changed.” Before she could raise any objections, he added, “Get help.” That came from medical and health writer and intimacy coach Molly Carter.
With the decision to write a book, Carol realized she was launching an “encore career.” Marc Freedman, author and social entrepreneur, popularized the concept. It means continuing to work in a new way in the second half of one’s life. Financial reasons can be an incentive. Carol chose applying her acquired skills and experience for positive social impact. What are they? Ten years as a teacher after receiving her BS in 1966 and MAT (Master of Arts in Teaching in 1967 from Cornell University. And for 35 years after receiving her PhD in Educational Technology from Catholic University, forming her own business that led her clients’ employees from Fortune 500 companies, federal and state agencies, private business, and non-profits to develop instructor-facilitated, video-based, and online training programs. From sales teams to health care providers, learning’s key goal was change for the better in what people do, achieve, and feel. It is the same goal for Best Sex Ever After Menopause: Through Mindset and Healing and Aphrodisiac Plants.
Carol considers her book sex ed for seniors. She gives readers validated research and applicable knowledge and skills. They’re structured into three parts: the brain being our most important sex organ, its role in our sexuality and health, and mind over matter; remedies for vaginal dryness and arousal, both pharmaceutical and natural, and Molly’s expertise in body know-how and its application “in the flesh.”
Best Sex Ever After Menopause is about a whole new paradigm of senior sexual pleasure: like fine wine, definitely better with age!
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Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening, everyone! Welcome back to another edition of Sara’s View of Life right here on selfdiscoverywisdom.org. I’m your host, Sara Troy.
Today, I want to talk about community, friendship, and putting ourselves out there to meet new people. December is upon us, and for many, it can be a lonely time of year. As someone who’s relatively new to my neighborhood—just seven months in—I’ve been learning the importance of making an effort to build connections. Whether it’s joining groups, starting conversations, or stepping out of our comfort zones, forming relationships takes initiative.
When I first moved here, I was overwhelmed with setting up my house, working on my shows, and caring for my grandchildren. Add to that some health challenges, and I didn’t make time to engage with others. But now, I’ve started reaching out. I’ve connected with people in my retirement community and even made a wonderful friend named Lynn. In December, a group of us are planning a ladies’ night out—a little Christmas party to treat ourselves.
I also attended an Alignable event recently, which was an incredible opportunity to meet people locally. Alignable is a great platform for networking, and their local events are a fantastic way to connect with others. At this event, I met Sharon, a lovely woman whose focus on health and wellness I can’t wait to share with you in an upcoming interview.
It’s not just about business connections, though; it’s about creating moments of joy, building friendships, and expanding our circles. For many single women, especially as we get older, the opportunities to socialize can seem limited. But instead of waiting for invitations, we can create our own events. Gather some friends or acquaintances, dress up, and enjoy a festive dinner. Or, if that’s not an option, consider volunteering.
December is full of opportunities to give back. Volunteer at a food bank, a toy drive, or an animal shelter. Help out at a local church or retirement home. By stepping into these spaces, you not only make a difference but also open the door to meaningful connections. Even if it feels uncomfortable at first, it’s worth it for the sense of belonging and purpose it can bring.
If going out isn’t an option, consider hosting a virtual gathering. Use platforms like Zoom or Facebook Live to invite others for a casual chat. It doesn’t have to be fancy—just a time to connect. Pour a cup of coffee or a glass of wine and let the conversation flow. It’s amazing how these small steps can build a sense of community.
For those of you who know someone who may be feeling isolated this season, reach out. Knock on a neighbor’s door, offer to pick up groceries, or invite them for tea. If you can’t include them in your own holiday celebrations, drop off a little gift to let them know they’re seen and valued. Acts of kindness, no matter how small, can have a profound impact.
Loneliness can be especially hard during the holidays, and we must remember those around us who might be struggling. Seniors, single parents, or displaced families may need an extra bit of care and connection. Consider opening your home or table to someone in need—it could make all the difference in their holiday experience.
Let’s make this season about more than just celebrations. Let’s create moments of care and connection, ensuring that everyone feels included and valued. Together, we can make this time of year a little brighter for everyone.
That’s what Christmas is all about, isn’t it? It’s about embracing one another, setting the table, and being inclusive. Sure, it’s about family, but who says family always has to be blood? Family can be the people you choose to surround yourself with—those who uplift and support you.
I’d love to do more of that here. As someone still new to my community, I’m slowly building connections. But even now, I plan to involve the people I’ve met, especially those who may be spending the holidays alone. It’s important to bring others into the fold. While I do have my own family, and we’ll celebrate on Boxing Day with everyone gathered, I might invite a couple of friends over for a Christmas breakfast to ensure no one feels left out. It’s the small gestures that matter most.
If you’re wondering what you can do, start small. Get dressed up, head out, and treat yourself to lunch. I’ve spent many meals alone, enjoying my own company, people-watching, and soaking in the atmosphere. It’s a habit I developed out of necessity growing up shy, but it taught me the value of being comfortable in my own skin. Whether you go solo or invite a friend, taking that step to do something is what counts.
Budgets can be tight during the holidays, and I get that. My focus is usually on meaningful, fun, and simple gifts rather than expensive ones. It’s not about the price—it’s about the thought and the love behind it. Something handmade, a small token, or even a gesture like a babysitting voucher can mean so much. The greatest gift, however, is simply being present with one another.
I’m grateful to be forming new friendships in my community. Being able to say, “Let’s go for coffee or lunch,” and enjoy someone’s company is such a gift. We need to create our own tribes, wherever we are. Don’t isolate yourself, don’t switch yourself off, and don’t discount your worth. If you feel alone, participate in something. Join a group, go for walks, or simply greet a passerby with a smile and a hello.
We’ve forgotten how to connect, haven’t we? We’re so absorbed in our phones or preoccupied with our own lives that we forget the power of a simple interaction. Let’s lift our heads, share a smile, and engage with the world around us. There’s so much warmth and connection waiting for us if we only embrace it.
I’m excited for another upcoming meeting where I’ll get to meet even more people. It’s an evening event, which works better with my schedule, and it’s conveniently close by. It’s opportunities like this that remind me there’s always a door open somewhere. You just need to find the right group for you, whether it’s business-related, hobby-based, or simply a social gathering. It’s all about the camaraderie and building those connections that bring meaning to the season.
This message beautifully captures the essence of community, kindness, and mindfulness, especially during the often hectic holiday season. Sara emphasizes several key points that resonate deeply:
The Importance of Connection: Whether it’s through a business group focused on camaraderie rather than competition, or simply inviting friends over for a meal, connection is vital. Finding ways to engage with others and support one another, especially during challenging times, brings warmth and purpose to the season.
Mindful Holiday Shopping: Amidst the frenzy of holiday shopping, Sara reminds us to practice patience and kindness. Both shoppers and workers are stressed, and a simple smile or kind word can transform the experience for everyone involved.
Adaptability and Simplicity: Delays and shortages may arise due to postal strikes or other factors, but the emphasis should remain on the thoughtfulness of the gesture rather than the physical gift. Even a note or IOU can convey the spirit of giving without unnecessary stress.
Financial Mindfulness: Sara’s own approach—sticking to cash and avoiding credit card debt—is a valuable reminder to prioritize financial well-being over the pressure to overspend.
Extending Kindness to the Isolated: Including those who might otherwise spend the holidays alone is a beautiful way to embody the season’s true meaning. Whether it’s a neighbor, a friend, or a stranger, a small gesture can make a significant impact.
The Gift of Positivity: A smile, a cheerful demeanor, and spreading love are the simplest yet most profound gifts we can give. Sara’s closing wish for love, joy, and peace reminds us all of what truly matters during the holidays and beyond.
This heartfelt reminder to be kind, mindful, and inclusive is a perfect message for the season. ?
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Mental Health Awareness with Sara Troy and her guest Dave Tarnawski, on air from December 3rd
Dave Tarnowski, author of Disappointing Affirmations, which is based on his popular Instagram account? “It’s OK to not be OK” is the message of the Disappointing Affirmations book, based on Dave Tarnowski’s wildly popular Instagram (@disappointingaffirmations, 2 million followers). Known for pairing peaceful nature photos with sayings that are amusingly self-critical, encouraging, disillusioned, or all three at once, Tarnowski points to feelings often unacknowledged or hidden, and spotlights them with humor, wit, and empathy. Tarnowski’s willingness to approach depression and failure with humor and pragmatism has won millions of enthusiastic fans who bristle at the culture of relentless toxic positivity. Failure may be an option, but that’s okay. As a bonus, the book’s jacket unfolds into a poster bearing a message especially popular with his fans: “Have a panic attack. You’re earned it.”
Dave Tarnowski is the author of about a dozen unfinished novels. He turned to memes when he finally gave up his dreams of being a writer of anything longer than a few sentences. He lives in New York City with his neuroses.
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Choose Positive Living with Sara Troy and her Mission 262 guests, on air from November 26th
Deborah Drummond had a vision for a book that would capture the wisdom of 262 remarkable women, and she made that vision a reality. Since its release, the book has had a profound impact, not only on its readers but also on the women who contributed to it. It has taken on a life of its own, traveling to various places and inspiring both women and men around the world.
Today, the focus is on the experience of taking the book to the Emmy Awards, where it made an impression and inspired those in attendance and where the book will be next, Oscars maybe?
For 30+ years, Deborah Drummond has been a pioneer in the world of entrepreneurship. She’s an accredited Health Educator, Ultrapreneur, 9x International Best-Selling Author, International Top Performance Speaker, and founder of Mission Accepted Media. She’s the Founder and Visionary behind the Show Up Stand Up Speak Up, Yes You! Movement, a heart-centered project designed to inspire women, and those who support women, to remember the solidarity of International Women’s Day.
The only thing she loves more than rocking stages and changing lives is being Mom to Chloae & Ocean and YaYa to her precious grandbabies. Nothing motivates her more.
Johann Callaghan founder of the S.L.E.E.P. Success Method. An international award-winning entrepreneur for excellence in collaboration (2024, TD Bank Toronto), she helps business professionals, leaders, coaches, and entrepreneurs go from overwhelmed and exhausted to focused, productive, and energized through better sleep. With over 10 years of experience in teaching and coaching, she offers courses, workshops, and global speaking engagements. Johann also hosts the Empowering Family Health Podcast. Outside of work, she enjoys forest walks, travel, and family time, and is a proud grandmother to her grandson, Isaac. Johann believes everything improves with better sleep.
Dr. Lisa Tan helps professionals transform burnout into bliss. After a 15-year journey combining neuroscience, quantum physics, sacred sensuality, and clinical expertise, she now offers the Red Carpet Inner Circle, immersive masterclasses, and wellness consultations. An Emmy Awards VIP Lounge author and international speaker, she’s been featured in the Los Angeles Tribune, Mindvalley University, Fox News, and Apple TV. Dr. Tan co-authored the book 262 Women Entrepreneurs, Ultrapreneurs, Creatives, and Media Rock Legacy and Tell All, gifted at the Emmy Awards VIP Lounge. She aims to impact one million professionals by 2030, helping them balance parenthood and career. Believing that parents who regain clarity, confidence, and conviction can reconnect deeply with their children and purpose, Dr. Tan’s work ripples into future generations. Also known as Dr. Sun Tan, she enjoys island life on her terms and has been called the Asian female version of Tony Robbins.
Kathleen Carlson is a Partner in the 262 Movement, an intuitive guide, visionary mentor, and CEO of Straight Up Executive Consulting, where she empowers female leaders to align their lives with authentic purpose and success. With over 30 years in leadership, including managing a $300 million portfolio for a Fortune 50 retailer, Kathleen combines strategic expertise with deep mental fitness insight. A dynamic speaker, best-selling author, and cover feature of Contemporary Woman Magazine, she inspires women to create lives of fulfillment and balance. Kathleen’s work is all about helping women define success on their own terms:
Cathy Holt is an elite International speaker and author promoting women as change agents. For more than 30 years she has worked for gender equality and center-staging women in leadership and decision-making roles. She has mentored grassroots and aspiring women change agents throughout the globe to awaken their inner leader, speak their truth and transform themselves. Whether she is speaking at UN meetings, teaching courses on women and gender studies, politically advocating for women’s issues, or connecting with every-day women, she passionately shares her experiences, skills, and strategies while mentoring women to awaken their innate leadership abilities and seize opportunities to lead the change they want to see.
Beth Elsfelder is a Reiki and Animal Reiki Master and Teacher, an author and speaker, the founder of Spirit Wolf Energetics, and an intuitive healer of animals and the people who love them. With 25 years of experience, Beth’s heart-centered energy work has touched hundreds of lives, promoting balance, health, peace, and a deeper human/animal bond. She offers personalized energy healing sessions, both in-person and remotely, to bring harmony to the body, mind, and spirit.
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Sara’s View of Life with Sara Troy, on air from November 26th
This week, my show is focused on sisterhood and common-sense love. The wise Linda L. Nardelli, whom I’ve interviewed before, shares daily spiritual messages, and today’s message was incredibly timely. It speaks to the spiritual warrior within us, urging us to stand confidently behind our convictions, express ourselves honestly, and be transparent. These are powerful tools for overcoming adversity in our lives. Balance, integrity, and self-empowerment are essential in our journey to become spiritual warriors, and we must embody these qualities to create change.
You have been drawn to this entrance to become a devoted spiritual warrior. The cougar is a potent symbol of self-advocacy. You must stand behind your convictions with absolute confidence in your self-worth.Self-expression, honesty, and transparency are the gifts you need. These are powerful tools that can disarm any adversity in your life.
Masiandia, “The balance between all the bodies: physical, energetic, emotional, mental and spiritual is the way of the spiritual warrior. And integrity is the only way to bring balance into your life. You have chosen this entrance for one reason: to get real, be bold, speak up, say your truth, and do it with the utmost respect for your power. You have every right to how you feel, what you need, and what you see and sense.”
As I reflect on my own journey through podcasting over the last 12 and a half years, I recognize the importance of standing up for others, especially women, who are working to improve the world. Women are the true bearers of common sense and love. For me, common-sense love is about sharing solutions from a place of practicality and love. With everything happening in the world right now—elections, wars, and societal struggles—it’s clear that the time for women to rise and say, “Enough is enough,” is now. Common sense needs to prevail, and it’s up to us to make sure that happens.
Sisterhood is rising in response to these challenges. The Mission Accepted 262 book highlights 262 women who have shared their passions, convictions, and wisdom with the world. Through this book, we are empowering one another to step into our full potential, regardless of our backgrounds or circumstances. While we may not yet have a woman in the White House, we don’t need political office to lead. The world needs love and compassion, but it also requires accountability, common-sense action, and respect for one another.
As part of the Mission 262 project, I’m honored to be among the women sharing their wisdom and encouragement. This book represents a five-year journey to awaken people to solutions, and it’s been incredible to see the lives it has impacted. The journey continues, serving as a reminder that the time to uplift and support one another is now.
In these times, we must also be accountable for our choices. If we support actions that cause harm or do nothing to stop injustice, we are complicit in those actions. It’s essential to hold ourselves and others responsible for our choices and their consequences. We cannot allow ourselves to be passive bystanders—we must seek the truth, demand answers, and make informed decisions.
The world’s problems—ranging from political instability to environmental disasters—demand that we come together to support one another. We need to offer solutions and stand in solidarity. This means supporting all people—whether they are women, men, transgender, non-binary, or those who don’t fit into traditional gender norms. We all need to be in this together, regardless of our differences.
It’s time for a new kind of leadership grounded in love, compassion, creativity, and accountability. We must empower those around us, not by tearing each other down, but by embracing each other’s differences and working together toward common goals. This is not the time for judgment comparison or competition. Instead, we should focus on compassion, empathy, and strength, while recognizing that our flaws can be our greatest strengths.
The universe is shaking things up to wake us up, to help us grow vibrationally, spiritually, and consciously. Now is the time to stop complaining and start making a difference. We have the power to create peace, love, and equality in our world by being the change we wish to see.
In the face of natural disasters, political unrest, and widespread suffering, we must come together to rebuild, offer support, and help each other thrive. The true currency of change is common-sense love. We must take action from a place of love, compassion, and respect. This is how we will transform the world into a better place for everyone—one that is rooted in equality, kindness, and understanding.
We can no longer afford to engage in petty rivalry or judgment. Instead, we must embrace one another, celebrate our differences, and support one another with love and common sense. It’s time to roll up our sleeves and work together for a brighter future. Let’s plant seeds of compassion, empathy, and kindness and watch them grow into something beautiful.
We are going through a challenging time, but it is also a time of awakening. By standing up, taking action, and being responsible for our choices, we can turn this upheaval into an opportunity for growth and change. Let’s rise to the occasion and nurture the seeds of love and compassion, knowing that they will flourish and create a better world for everyone.
The time has come, my sisters. The time has come to stand together, not just as individual women, but as a powerful collective force for change. We are the answer to the questions that have plagued us for so long. The shift we’ve been waiting for—it’s happening now. But it’s going to take every one of us, every woman, to step into our power.
We are rising with love, compassion, and a fierce sense of purpose. It’s not about competing with one another. It’s about coming together. It’s not about perfection. It’s about commitment and courage. It’s about understanding that in this soil of love, we have the ability to nurture and grow—together.
For far too long, we’ve allowed hatred, control, narcissism, and power struggles to dominate our world. But that’s not the frequency we operate on anymore. We operate on the frequency of love—a vibration that transcends all barriers. This is the soil in which we plant our seeds—seeds of opportunity, hope, and transformation. We nurture them, we water them, and we grow them into something magnificent.
We will not be swayed by those who feed on division, cruelty, or insecurity. Their soil is dead; it will not grow anything of value. But our soil—our soil is rich with compassion, understanding, and possibility. Our soil will grow abundance. It will grow connection. It will grow a future that values every single person, regardless of color, creed, or background.
I’m calling on every woman to step into this movement. To rise up and support one another—whether through our businesses, our advocacy, our creativity, or our love. We are the changemakers, the ones who will create the foundations of this new world. And yes, it will be a grind. It won’t be easy. But this is the path we’ve chosen, and we are in it together, for the long haul.
I don’t care if you wear Chanel or if you shop at Old Navy. I don’t care if your hair is gray or if it’s blonde, red, or black. I don’t care about the labels society puts on us. What matters is our hearts. What matters is our compassion, our strength, our shared humanity. We will not compete. We will not tear each other down. We will rise together.
My platform is my podcast, my books, my voice. I’m here to amplify the voices of women who have stepped up to serve, to support, to inspire. What’s your platform? What’s your unique service to offer this world? What will you bring to this collective? Together, we’ll weave a tapestry of love, service, and community.
But it’s the women who must drive this change. We are the ones who will put this house—our Earth—back in order. It’s time to stop the wars, to stop the hate, and to start the work of nurturing, creating, and growing.
This is just the beginning. Over the next few years, you will see women standing up, each taking ownership of her own life, her gifts, and her responsibility. And together, we will rise. We will rise for the children, for the communities, for the world.
Let’s do this. Let’s plant the seeds. Let’s water them. Let’s grow this future. Together.
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