C 17-38 David Essel on Inner Honesty Setting us FREE

September 11, 2017March 15, 2018Self Discovery Wisdom Podcast

Choose Positive Living with Sara Troy and her guest David Essel, on air September 19th

Everyone talks about how they’re such an honest person. How they wish everyone else would be as honest as they are. But for most of us, it’s a total illusion. Most people in America are petrified of living an honest life, regardless of what they might try to tell themselves on a daily basis

This might seem startling to many. Maybe even you.

We’ve been told since were a little kid that honesty is the best policy. Abe Lincoln is immortalized in a story about being honest.

But it doesn’t matter what your parents said, doesn’t matter what Abe Lincoln did, because most of us are so petrified of being honest that we would rather tell white lies, be passive aggressive in nature, then risk being honest with those around us.

510njmsnyil-_sx331_bo1204203200_ Number one bestselling author, life coach, counsellor and Radio host David Essel has seen firsthand the damaging effects of people who are afraid, to be honest in life with their partners, kids, friends, coworkers and parents.

The fear of honesty can be wrapped up in a word called co-dependency. Into thousand two, David called co-dependency “the largest Addiction in the world today.”

So before you read any further, are you an honest person? On a scale of 1 to 10, would you claim that you’re 100% honest 100% of the time? Or only 10% of the time?

Here’s what David Essel believes are the four biggest blocks to living an honest life. David has been called “the new leader in the positive thinking movement” by celebrity Jenny McCarthy, for good reasons. He’s honest.

” most of us are raised to be honest. At least that’s what our parents, society and teachers tell us. Always be honest. But what percentage of our society actually lives an honest life?

I can tell you from my own experience that rarely was I honest growing up, in college, and even in the beginning of my professional career with most people.

And there are reasons for that. It’s not that we are dishonest because were bad people, but because we’re afraid of the ramifications of what it would look like to lead an honest life.

Below are my four top key reasons why most of us are currently not honest, and unless we really get on the ball, will not be honest for the rest of our lives. It’s sad. But true.

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Number one. Fear of being rejected by family, friends, partners co-workers and more. Most of us aren’t honest because we’re afraid that people are going to reject us. They’re gonna tell us that was stupid. Whatever we’re talking about, whatever side of the fence we’re taking, in conversations, most of us would rather avoid being honest so that we couldn’t be rejected.

Number two. Our fear of being embarrassed. If we stand for a cause and talk openly and honestly about how we feel about a social situation, economic situation, Addiction situation, educational situation, we’re afraid that if we speak our mind honestly we might be embarrassed to find out that we could be wrong. Or we might embarrass ourselves by not knowing as much as we might think we do about a certain topic. So instead of risking embarrassment, we will go along and agree with whoever we’re talking to in a certain circumstance.

Number three. Our fear of being ridiculed. Being ridiculed is a little different than being rejected. Being ridiculed means that we could be made fun of if we’re honest. If 20 years ago you were a Chicago Cubs fan, you may not openly admit it to people because the Cubs had struggled for so long. And if you were honest with them, you’re afraid that you might be ridiculed for liking a team that had been one of the biggest losers in sports franchise history.

Number four. The fear of abandonment. The greatest fear that most humans have is that if they were honest with people they would be abandoned. This is one of the reasons why so many gay people stay in the closet, or transgender’s, or bi sexual’s…… Because they’re afraid of being abandoned by their friends, partners, family, co-workers and society in general. The fear of abandonment is absolutely one of the greatest fears in the world, and it’s one of the reasons why we choose not to be honest in life.

If you look at the above statements… You can evaluate your own life. I was one of those people for years that didn’t want to rock the boat, didn’t want to have people upset with me, didn’t want to have people reject me, embarrassed me, ridicule me and God for bid someone might leave my life because of my opinions.

11999082_1076683125699244_5259454418228206069_n The paragraph above is a definition of codependency. I was highly co-dependent in my world. It wasn’t until 1997, when I worked for 52 straight weeks with a counsellor, that I found the depth of my codependency.

I’d also found that I wasn’t honest in my relationships. If I wasn’t happy with a woman I was dating, I might bring it up once or twice, but if I didn’t get the end result I wanted, in other words, if she didn’t agree with my position, I would slowly back out. I would disappear into my addictions. Or have an affair. Or work longer hours. Anything to avoid having to face the consequences of a disagreement.

Our fear of being honest is a fear of rocking the boat, so we are dishonest, or omit our true feelings, or hide behind someone else’s feelings, or use passive aggressive behaviour instead of facing the facts and being honest. Independent.

Currently, of the thousands of people, I have worked with in the last 27 years as a counsellor and a life coach from all over the world, 50% of my clients are battling codependency. They are afraid of living an honest life. And they’re shocked to find when we start working together, that there in the majority, and their main addiction is that of co-dependency.

The great news is with the help of a fantastic counsellor, minister, priest, life coach or other types of professional you can shatter your need to be liked and accepted by everyone, and risk being yourself. A powerful, independent person living in this world.

If you need help on how to do this, contact me directly. I know the way, I once was in that place of dishonesty, and the freedom that not only myself but thousands of clients have found in leading an honest life is amazing. It’s not always easy by any means. But it simply amazing.”

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TSM 17-38 The Book of Life with Derek Berman.

September 11, 2017September 11, 2024Self Discovery Wisdom Podcast

Their Story Matters with Sara Troy and her guest Derek Berman, on air from September 19th.

Derek Berman grew up in London, England. At the age of twenty, he joined The Echoes, a rock’n roll band, playing backup for many popular stars of the 60’s including Jerry Lee Lewis, Conway Twitty, The Four Seasons, Dusty Springfield, The Monkees, Roy Orbison, Cat Stevens and many others. The Echoes played at The Cavern Club in Liverpool, with The Beatles as their warm-up band one week prior to the release of “I Wanna Hold Your Hand.”

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Since leaving The Echoes, Derek has worked as a recording engineer in the UK and US. He has run theatrical booking/management agencies and booked big-name celebrities such as Tom Jones, Englebert Humperdinck, Anne Murray, etc. He partnered with Bob Tarantino, head of promotions at A&M Records, who was responsible for the promotion of Sting, The Go Go’s, The Carpenters, and many others. They were instrumental at the beginning of House & Rap in Chicago, managing Fast Eddie, Frankie “Hollywood” Rodriguez and many other top House and Rap DJ’s with hits too numerous to mention.

Derek has played The London Palladium, The Olympia Paris, Royal Festival Hall in London, Teatro Volturno in Rome and many top venues the world over.

“I feel very fortunate. When I look back on my life, it seems so magical! And, I want to pay forward the joy by sharing the knowledge that has come my way . . . the knowledge of not only how to be successful, but how to be happy!”

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The Book of Life was written to help people be happy with whatever they have so that they can go on to be successful in life with whatever they do. This is not a book to create wealth, lose weight, find the right partner, etc. It’s a book to create joy in your life . . . to create satisfaction with whatever is in your life . . . and, to banish fear from your life.

Although our beliefs shape our lives, they are only personal beliefs and do not necessarily hold true for others. They have been passed on to us from our parents, teachers, and authority figures and we believe them.

The Book of Life offers practical ideas and useful exercises on creating a better life, which are presented in a down to earth, easy to read manner. The understanding you may gain will enable you to break free of the beliefs that are holding you back. This book can literally change your life.

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TSM 17-37 Why God is Love with Joyce Stewart

September 1, 2017August 7, 2021Self Discovery Wisdom Podcast

Thier Story Matters with Sara Troy and her guest Joyce Stewart, on air from September 12th

Joyce was raised in the Christian religion and was a firm believer in what she had been taught. However, all of that began to change when she became a psychotherapist and discovered that the evidenced based practices she had been taught, while great at managing symptoms, did little to cure the problems her clients came in with. Because she believed that God was a healing God, she knew that healing needed to come through spiritual means. She studied how Jesus healed and discovered he used the eastern based beliefs of transferring spiritual energy. Well, this went against everything she had been taught, that eastern based alternative new age healing came from the devil and was to be avoided. With initial fear and trepidation, Joyce ventured into this field and discovered a whole new world of healing and spirituality that resonated with her spirit but conflicted with the Christian beliefs. God challenged her one day to give up everything she believed and start over. This took Joyce on a fascinating journey of discovering how much of her beliefs about life, relationships, religion, healing and many other topics had been based in fear instead of love. Since God is love, anything based in fear could not come from God and had to be released. Today, Joyce uses the things she has learned to help her clients heal from their past and present issues so they can have loving connections with themselves, others and God.oyce is available to speak to groups about any of the subjects in either of her books.

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Joyce Stewart is a licensed clinical social worker and holistic health practitioner with a bachelors and master’s degree in social work. After years of working with children and families in the foster care system, Joyce decided to go into private practice and started Holistic Healing Consulting. She offers online and in person counselling to help people identify the root cause of their symptoms and then releases it through spiritual and energy based treatments so they can be free.
Joyce has written two books: Interconnected by God, Healing for your Spirit, Soul and Body and God is Love, a Spiritual Journey from Fear to Love.

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GVS 17-39 Echo in Ramadi with Scott Huesing

September 1, 2017July 18, 2022Self Discovery Wisdom Podcast

Our Global Veterans Stories, with Sara Troy and her guest Scott Huesing, on air from October 3rd

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Scott A. Huesing is a retired the United States Marine Corps Infantry Major with 24 years of honourable service, both enlisted and as a commissioned officer. During his career spanning 10 deployments, he has conducted operations in over 60 countries worldwide. Throughout his numerous deployments to Iraq, Afghanistan, and the Horn of Africa he planned, led, and conducted hundreds of combat missions under some of the most austere and challenging conditions.

Scott is a published author since 2005. His upcoming book, Echo in Ramadi, (due out February 2018, Regnery) is a ten-month snapshot in time that changed the face of operations on the battlefield; a captivating story of Echo Company, 2d Battalion, 4th Marines during the Second Battle of Ramadi in support of the Multi-National Forces (MNF) Surge Strategy in 2006. His true-life account provides keen insights into what may be an unfamiliar world to readers, but very familiar to those, like Scott, who lived it and endured this historic fight. Echo in Ramadi was written to honour the sacrifices and spirit of his Marines and the families they supported – it is his tribute to them and his honour to tell this great story. Readers will feel the pain, emotion, laughter, intensity, and friction that Scott describes in unvarnished detail.

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Scott has written numerous articles and scholarly pieces for The Marine Corps Gazette and Military Times He has been a technical writer and author to U.S. Marine Corps doctrine shaping the future of training within the world’s most elite branch of service. He is the creative author on writing the standard operating procedures for Marine Expeditionary Units, America’s first response force, with The Lightning Press.
Scott is a formally trained instructor and public speaker with 25 years of experience teaching and getting his audiences to connect to the material he presents, both in the military and private sector. He has spoken to audiences as large as 2,000 conveying his thoughts, intent, and goals in order to motivate listeners. Scott’s natural, outgoing style makes him uniquely qualified and talented in communicating and translating his experiences to audiences to connect.
With the willingness to share his unique story and experiences, Scott dedicates his time to travel to military bases, NROTC programs, Veterans hospitals, corporate leadership conferences, Gold Star Mothers events, and a multitude of venues to read and share the story of his epic journey and struggles. He is continually sought out to provide Professional Military Education to active duty units to speak on leadership and his combat experiences – and the importance of writing about them.

Scott is the Executive Director for Save the Brave Foundation, a certified 501c3 that connect Veterans through outreach to build the strength of character – part of their mission is continually staying proactive to the needs of the Veterans they are honoured to serve.
Scott currently lives in Southern California with his family.

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RAISING AWARENESS FOR

VETERAN SUICIDE ONE MILE AT A TIME

On Friday July 22nd, Major Scott A. Huesing USMC (Ret), the Bestselling Author of Echo in Ramadi is riding his Harley Davidson motorcycle across the country again for Save the Brave (STB) to raise awareness for Veteran Suicide. Huesing (51), the Executive Director of Save the Brave (501c3) began this ride in 2020 to honor his high school friend and veteran, David W. White (aged 48), who died from alcohol poisoning on Sunday, June 7, 2020, in Butte, Montana. Huesing will ride from Bastards Canteen in Temecula, California to Palmetto Brewing Company in Charleston, South Carolina.

During the 9-day journey, Huesing will make several stops to ask supporters to donate to STB and ride along with him on his journey to raise awareness for veteran suicide – emphasizing that these are not statistics anymore, they are friends and sons and brothers that we all know. He’ll be joined by fellow veterans and riders from every state he passes through amidst the heat of July. Their goal – $100,000.

When asked, “Why did you pick July to make this ride?” Huesing responded, “I didn’t pick the month – the month picked me. If nothing else, it’s a reminder to everyone who joins me along the way that maybe we need to suffer a little bit to be reminded exactly why we are riding.” Veterans dealing with depression, alcohol abuse, and PTSD are especially impacted by the isolation this pandemic has caused in many cases.

This is a unique opportunity to stay connected as veterans and as communities while supporting a worthwhile charity.

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