26-23. Who Are You Really?


Sara’s View of Life with Sara Troy, on air from May

Who are we really, beneath all the labels, expectations, and identities we have gathered throughout life? From the moment we are born, the world begins shaping us. Parents, schools, religion, culture, media, relationships, and life experiences all begin telling us who we should be, how we should behave, what success should look like, what is acceptable, and what is not. Little by little, many people stop listening to themselves and begin living according to the expectations of others. They become who they were taught to be rather than who they truly are.

Some people become the caretaker because they learned early that love came through service. Others become the achiever because approval only came when they succeeded. Some become quiet, invisible, or emotionally guarded because life taught them it was safer not to shine too brightly. Over time, survival patterns can become identity, and many people no longer remember who they were before fear, criticism, rejection, comparison, or pain entered their lives. They spend years performing versions of themselves that fit into society while feeling deeply disconnected inside.

But underneath all of that conditioning lives the authentic essence of who we truly are. Before the world told us what we should be, there was a natural spirit within us — curious, creative, feeling, intuitive, and uniquely our own. There was a knowingness, an energy, a truth that belonged to us before the noise of the world became louder than our own inner voice. The real tragedy is not that the world influences us, because life itself is a journey of learning and interaction. The tragedy is when we completely abandon ourselves in order to gain acceptance, approval, or survival.

And truly, who has the right to decide who and what we are? No institution, relationship, government, social pressure, diagnosis, or expectation should own our identity. Others may guide us, influence us, teach us, or inspire us, but they should never define the entirety of who we are. The ownership of self belongs to each individual soul. Yet many people spend most of their lives seeking permission to simply be themselves.

The journey of self-discovery is often not about becoming someone new. It is about peeling back the layers of conditioning and remembering who you were before the world placed limitations upon you. That remembering can be uncomfortable because it asks us to question everything: the roles we play, the beliefs we carry, the relationships we tolerate, and the masks we wear to survive. We begin asking ourselves difficult but necessary questions: What do I truly feel? What matters to me? What brings me peace, joy, meaning, and purpose? What no longer belongs to me? Where have I betrayed myself to fit into someone else’s expectations?

This awakening is not about rebellion for the sake of rebellion. It is about authenticity. It is about learning to stand in your own truth with compassion, responsibility, and self-awareness. It is about understanding that you were never meant to be a copy of someone else’s idea of success or worthiness. You were meant to discover your own path, your own voice, your own rhythm, and your own contribution to life.

Perhaps one of the greatest acts of courage today is not becoming more impressive to the world, but becoming more truthful with yourself. To stop performing. To stop shrinking. To stop apologizing for who you are. And instead, to reconnect with the person you were always meant to be before the world told you otherwise.



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26-23. “The Soul Is Tired of Performing”


Sara’s View of Life with Sara Troy, on air from May

The soul is tired of performing. Tired of pretending. Tired of wearing masks to fit expectations, roles, labels, and demands that often have little to do with who we truly are. For so long, humanity has been taught to perform for approval, perform for survival, perform for success, perform for love, and perform for acceptance. We have learned how to present ourselves to the world while quietly disconnecting from the truth of our own essence.

But the soul was never designed to live as a performance. It was meant to live as an expression of divine wisdom flowing naturally through us. It seeks truth, authenticity, connection, purpose, and meaningful presence. It does not wish to compete for worthiness or exhaust itself trying to become enough for others. It simply wishes to be fully aligned with its own knowingness and allowed to flow freely into life.

Within every person lives a wisdom far deeper than intellect alone. The soul carries insight, compassion, intuition, creativity, and an energetic understanding that often speaks quietly beneath the noise of the mind and the chaos of the world. When we become still enough to listen, that wisdom begins to guide us toward what is real, what is aligned, and what matters most in the present moment.

The soul does not need to dominate others to be heard. It simply wishes to ignite truth within others — heart to heart, spirit to spirit. When one person begins living authentically, it gives others permission to do the same. Truth has a resonance to it. It awakens something within people that reminds them of who they are beneath their own layers of performance and conditioning.

This does not mean abandoning the mind, because the mind too has its purpose. The mind is meant to clarify, organize, understand, and bring wisdom into practical action. But the mind was never meant to rule disconnected from the soul. When intellect operates without heart, humanity loses compassion. When knowledge exists without wisdom, people become informed but disconnected. The soul brings meaning to knowledge and humanity to action.

What many people are feeling right now is spiritual exhaustion — not simply physical fatigue, but exhaustion from constantly trying to be what the world expects instead of what the soul knows itself to be. People are yearning for spaces where they can breathe again, where they can stop performing and simply exist in truth without fear of judgment or rejection.

Perhaps this is the great awakening happening now. Not an awakening into superiority, but an awakening back into authenticity. A remembering that the soul already carries wisdom, and that wisdom becomes powerful when it flows into compassionate action, conscious living, and truthful connection with others.

The soul is not asking us to become more impressive.
It is asking us to become more real.



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26-22. Graduating Through Life


Sara’s View of Life with Sara Troy, on air June 2nd

Graduation is not just about caps, gowns, diplomas, or walking across a stage. Graduation is life’s way of saying, “You have grown beyond where you once were.”

Right now, thousands of young people are stepping out of schools and into a world that feels uncertain, demanding, exciting, and sometimes overwhelming. They are told they must know who they are, what they want, and where they are going. But truthfully, life is not a straight staircase, it is a series of graduations.

We graduate from innocence into awareness.
From fear into courage.
From limitation into possibility.
From surviving into living

From doubt to clarity

And the beautiful thing is, we never stop graduating.

For our young people, this moment can feel both thrilling and terrifying. Some are celebrating with certainty, while others are silently asking themselves, “What now?” Some are stepping into university, trades, travel, work, or entrepreneurship. Others are simply trying to figure out who they are in a world constantly telling them who they should be.

But perhaps the greatest graduation is not academic at all.

It is the graduation into self.

The moment we stop living only by expectation and begin listening to our own knowingness. The moment we understand that success is not merely measured by money, titles, followers, or status, but by whether we are becoming whole within ourselves.

Life itself is an ongoing upscaling.

Each challenge asks us to grow larger than the fear.
Each heartbreak asks us to deepen in compassion and understanding.
Each failure asks us to become wiser and listen in.
Each success asks us to become more responsible with our gifts and use them wisely.

Upscaling is not about becoming “better than” others. It is about becoming more fully aligned with who we truly are.

For many graduates today, the pressure is immense. Social media has created a world of comparison where people feel behind before they have even begun. Yet every soul has its own timing, its own curriculum, its own classroom of growth.

Some people graduate early in wisdom.
Some graduate through adversity, lack of health, wealth, connection .
Some through loss and fear, facing the inner devil.
Some through service, understanding their unique role in life.
Some through love, self love , love of life, love of whom you serve in life.

And many adults listening today may realize they too are graduating right now, from old beliefs, old careers, old identities, old wounds, or old limitations

Life keeps calling us forward.

Perhaps we need to stop asking children, “What are you going to do?” and instead ask, “Who are you becoming?”

Because when people know who they are, what they do begins to align naturally.

This show is a celebration not only of school graduates, but of every person willing to rise into the next version of themselves. Every person choosing growth over stagnation. Every person brave enough to begin again.

Graduation is not an ending.
It is an invitation.

An invitation to explore.
To discover.
To stumble and rise again.
To trust your own voice.
To bring your gifts to the world.
To understand that life itself is a continual education of the soul.

And no matter your age, you are never too old to upscale your life, your thinking, your compassion, your purpose, or your dreams.

So to all graduates of every age and stage of life:

May you walk forward not in fear of the unknown, but in curiosity of what is possible.
May you understand that your worth is not dependent on perfection.
May you remember that every experience is shaping your wisdom.
And may you always allow life to keep graduating you into greater awareness, service, and truth.

Because the real diploma in life is not paper.
It is the wisdom we embody.



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26-20. “The Exhaustion of Pretending to Be Fine”


Sara’s View of Life with Sara Troy, on air from May 18th

An honest talk around emotional fatigue, masking pain, burnout, and the liberation that comes from authenticity.

May is Fibromyalgia Awareness Month, and after living with fibromyalgia for over thirty years, I felt it was important to speak openly about the wearyness of living with a debilitating disease that so often goes unseen, misunderstood, or dismissed.

Fibromyalgia is not simply about pain. It is an exhaustion that settles deep into the bones, the muscles, the mind, and the spirit. It is waking up tired no matter how much sleep you have had. It is trying to function through brain fog, chronic fatigue, hypersensitivity, emotional depletion, digestive issues, and a body that can change from one moment to the next without warning. Some days, even the smallest tasks can feel like climbing a mountain carrying invisible weight.

What makes it even harder is that many people living with fibromyalgia become experts at masking it. We smile, show up, continue caring for others, continue working where we can, and continue trying to participate in life while silently calculating energy, pain levels, recovery time, and limitations. People often see the face we present, not the internal battle we fight every single day.

Living with a long-term illness also carries grief. Grief for the life you thought you would have, the energy you once had, the spontaneity lost, the misunderstandings from others, and sometimes even the isolation that comes from people not fully comprehending what chronic illness does to the body, mind, emotions, and identity.

But within that wearyness, there is also resilience. There is adaptation. There is courage in continuing on when your body constantly asks you to stop. There is wisdom learned through pacing, listening, adjusting, and discovering what truly matters. Living with fibromyalgia teaches compassion in ways many cannot understand unless they too have walked this path.

This conversation is not about seeking pity. It is about awareness, understanding, and giving voice to the millions of people who live daily with invisible illnesses. It is about acknowledging that behind many smiles are people carrying extraordinary burdens quietly and bravely.

And perhaps most importantly, it is about reminding those who live with fibromyalgia that they are not weak, not lazy, not imagining it, and not alone and you are so much more than the desease.



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26-19. Sara’s Seventh Decade.


Sara’s View of Life with Sara Troy, on air from May 12th

From sixty to seventy, I stepped fully into my purpose and into a life that finally felt like my own. This decade was no longer about searching—it was about living, serving, and sharing the wisdom that had been forged through every previous chapter of my life.

By this time, podcasting had already begun to anchor me. Starting in 2012, and truly building momentum from 2014 onward, I committed to this path of conversation, connection, and contribution. What began as a spark in my late fifties became a full expression of who I am. Week after week, year after year, I showed up—interviewing people from around the world, sharing their stories, their courage, their insights, and their purpose.

The years that followed brought profound personal change.

In 2015, my mother passed at the age of 95. She had been bedridden, and when the time came, it was as if the Angels came for her. With open eyes and open arms, she embraced them. It was a moment of peace, of grace, and of release.

My best friend took me to Mexico in March 2015 for two weeks, it was wonderful and and after Mums death a welcome divertion.

In 2016, I lost my beloved companion, Kokomo, my border collie she was 14.7 years old. To this day, I miss her deeply. She was love, heart, soul, and spirit, and she loved me in a way that was pure and unwavering, a bond that will always stay with me. January of 2017 our beloved cat Sativa left us at the age of 17.7 years old.

In 2017, my ex finally moved on, closing a long and difficult chapter. We had been living together, but the relationship itself had ended seven years prior. That same year, I left Vancouver. This was not just a physical move, it was a transition into a life more aligned with who I was becoming. Vancouver held many memories, both beautiful and painful, but I knew it was time to step into new spaces, both externally and internally.

Late 2017, I went to Toronto for a short time to be closer to my eldest daughter. It brought a very different energy, busy, loud, and demanding. It reminded me of the vastness of the world, the diversity of people, and the constant movement of life. It echoed the work I was doing through my podcast, connecting with voices from all walks of life. But I only stayed three months, it was simply too cold, and for me, perhaps forty years too late.

In February 2018, I moved to Victoria, where I would spend the next six years. Victoria became a place of reflection and integration. Its quieter pace and connection to the sea allowed me to breathe more deeply, to look inward, and to let the dust of previous decades settle. I lived with an extraordinary woman named Audrey, who was 84 at the time and a true example of how to live life fully. That chapter gave me space—not to escape my past, but to understand and integrate it.

Throughout this decade, Self Discovery Wisdom truly grew into what it is today. It became more than a podcast, it became a platform, a community, an Orchard of Wisdom a Self Discovery, where voices could be heard and wisdom could be shared. I was no longer just finding my voice; I was helping others find and share theirs.

Living with fibromyalgia remained part of my daily reality. The pain, the fatigue, the unpredictability—they never truly left. But I learned to live with it, to work with my body instead of against it. I learned to pace, to rest, and to honour what I could do rather than mourn what I could not. It became part of my rhythm, not my identity.

This decade deepened my understanding of knowingness, of listening, feeling, and trusting that inner guidance. Everything I had gone through—the trauma, the loneliness, the rebuilding, the illness, had led me here. I could see the threads clearly. Nothing had been wasted. Every experience had shaped my compassion, my insight, and my ability to hold space for others.

There were still challenges—financial struggles, managing my health, carrying so much independently, but my relationship to those challenges changed. I was no longer defined by hardship. I was guided by purpose.

I embraced my role as the Wisdom Weaver of the Airwaves. Through thousands of conversations, I witnessed the resilience of humanity, the courage of individuals, and the power of shared stories. I saw again and again that people are not broken—they are often simply unheard, unsupported, or disconnected from their truth.

Eventually, I moved to Nanaimo, where I now live just ten minutes from my daughter and grandsons. My life is beautifully divided between podcasting and grandparenting, and I feel full. I owe a deep sense of security and gratitude to my daughter and son-in-law, who helped provide me with a home where I truly feel at peace, and where my grandsons can come and play.

This decade taught me that sometimes we need to change our environment to truly see ourselves. Vancouver showed me who I had been. Toronto reminded me of the world I was serving. Victoria gave me space to feel and heal. And Nanaimo has given me a sense of home, family,grounding and belonging.

Through it all, I remained committed to my purpose, sharing stories, weaving wisdom, and reminding others, as I remind myself, that our journey is not defined by where we are, but by who we become along the way.

From sixty to seventy-one, I wasn’t just moving through places.

I was coming home to myself.

I was anchoring into myself.



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