TS21-12 Laura Suria, and Isabelle’s Suicide Story of Hope.

March 22, 2021August 25, 2024Self Discovery Wisdom Podcast

Their Story Matter with Sara Troy and her guest Laura Suria, on air form March 23rd

My name is Laura Suria. I have a Masters degree in education and a Bachelor degree in Early Education. I am a teacher, mentor, and coach. Later on, in life I decided to further my education in several different healing areas which includes Sound Bowl Therapy, Pranic Healing and as a Practitioner in QHHT – Past Life Regression
I am here today to help raise awareness about the life-changing event that took the life away from a healthy, fun loving, and amazing individual, my daughter Isabell Suria.

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Isabell was born on January 11, 2000. She grew up in a small town 20 miles from St. Louis Arch in Collinsville, IL. I am married to my husband Rick, we have been together for nearly 32 years and are coming up on our 22nd wedding anniversary. We also have one other child, her young brother Logan who just turned 17 years old in April. At the time we had our 18-year-old cousin, Dante living with us. He came to live with us after the 2 hurricanes that hit the island.” We Love You Puerto Rico”, was inspired by Dante and his family story.
Our family began on Jan 11, 2000, with a happy, healthy, loving beautiful baby girl. And through her life, she had many amazing achievements. She played every sport offered from 4th to 8th grade and also was on a National Competition Cheerleading team for 9 years. In her freshman year of high school, she cheered on the varsity cheerleading team, while also taking honours courses to get credit for college.
In May 2013, she received her last Gardasil vaccine and 13 days later because ill. She was getting ready for tryouts and the last cheer competition when I decided to run her to the doctor yo check her ear out because she had pain. Little did we know this was the start of years of physical pain. Several years later and many struggles to main good grades and friends we decided to let her hang out with friends to cheer her up. But New Year’s Eve of 2015 is when her life changed forever from physical and now emotions pain. She was at a New Years Eve party, and she was raped by 3 older boys. She was never the same since then. We didn’t find out about the assault until a couple of months after, but when we did we went to the school principal, superintendent and then police departments. This is when cyberbullying started. During the time we weren’t aware of what occurred, she was going to school daily while having those boys in several classes with her. Cyberbullying started to increase and get worse as more people found out. There were several girls who were constantly hateful towards any positive posts of Isabell’s and posts with new friends she was hanging out with. A year after she was sexually assaulted, pictures and tweets resurfaced and were posted on social media about it. It was nearly impossible for Isabell to get away from what happened to her, it followed her everywhere.

After that, we took all the tweets, posts, and hateful texts to the superintendent. All they did was talk to her parents with no punishments. And for the boys, we finally got a response from the DA in June 2015 saying they will not prosecute until we have a video of her saying no. This lead to even more problems with her physical, emotional, and mental state.
We made the decision to take her out of high school because of the negative and insulting comments, her anxiety and stress, the bullying, and the lack of support from the school district. She was enrolled at a local college at the age of 17 and was considered a dual-enrolled student since she was also getting her high school diploma. She tried to stay positive amidst it all, but social media or cyberbullying played a major role in her mental health.
On January 19 of this year, she posted a poll on Twitter with the options of “Just do it” or “Don’t Do it.” 177 people voted, 59% saying just do it, and 49% saying don’t do it. That 59% that said yes didn’t know what they were voting for. I was not aware of this until after.
We did everything we could, got her the best help we could, and tried our best. Unfortunately, it wasn’t enough. The nightmares and flashbacks haunted her every single day. On January 25th, 2018, we lost our Isabell.

It was 2 weeks to the day after her 18th birthday. Social media and bullying is one of the reasons we lost her. There is a growing epidemic of bullying and suicide, and we have made it our mission to raise awareness and make a change. Right after her 18th birthday, she went and got a tattoo down her spine that read “From Pain Comes Strength,” which was her motto. We have now started to get From Pain Comes Strength to be a recognized organization. With the help of our family, friends, and other supports, we can make a change. It is a daily effort we all have to make, but if we want it and set our minds to it, I am confident we can make a difference.
Let’s make it all of our’s personal missions to raise awareness of bullying, sexual assault, and suicide, and educate our youth about how we can make a difference between two mission with Pure Mission and Willie J. Willy J heard about Dante and was greatly touched and asked the Suria Family to send personal photos of the devastation of from the hurricane Maria. Within talking to Dante about how bad the condition was and not having power for over 100 Willie J wrote, ” We Love You Puerto Rico” in an effort to draw awareness of how life can change so quickly.
Dante was the same age as Isabell and for the most part, got along and helped each other out. Dante left his family to finish high school in the states because his school was so damaged by the storm. Arron Emig stepped in and started to mentor Dante and Bob Emig Foundation paid for him to attend a local high school where Arron graduated.

The Bob Emig Foundation, a nonprofit 501(c)3 tax-exempt organization, was started in 2004. Founder Aaron Emig, Bob’s oldest son, created the foundation to continue his father’s work in helping youth develop well-rounded lives by providing them a healthy sports experience. Bob as so passed away from suicide which caused years and pain for his family.
After Isabell’s passing Willie J and Aaron Emig asked me to join them at a local bar and grill where we decided to write a song in honour of Isabell.
This is when I introduce my abilities to both of them. I am able to connect with Isabell in a way that can help others. Isabell helped Willie J write her song. She continues to guide us on our journey to help the youth. The song, ” Isabell ” was born the next weekend.

Thank you to all your listeners to hear about our story of Isabell Suria and our foundation From Pain Comes Strength. Also a big thanks to Self Discovery Media Community for an amazing platform to spread our mission of helping our youth. I am honoured to have had the privilege of speaking with you this afternoon. So again, thank you -and remember — From Pain Comes Strength.

“ISABELL” A SONG BY WILLIE J.

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MA18-28 Bully Busting 101 with Doug Setter

June 24, 2018July 23, 2018Self Discovery Wisdom Podcast

Mental Health Awareness with Sara Troy and her guest Doug Setter, on air from July 3rd

Bully Busting 101

The current “Nanny State” approach to bullying has failed in many ways:

The victim has to rely on an institution to protect them.
The schools set up an environment that not only encourages bullying but sets the school up for liability. (A friend’s son was punched at school, and following the school’s policy, put his hands behind his back and walked away. The bully was allowed to hit others without fear of punishment.)
The bully label is overused. A suspect and real bullies are being accused and bullied into not bullying.

One of the myths of bullying is that school shooters were driven to the act of destruction. When in reality, school shooters were usually the biggest bullies with inflated egos and other bullies were NOT targeted.

The usual targets of bullying are the kids from different ethnic backgrounds, single-parent families and who have moved frequently. Less stability, less home life and definitely less authority figures. There is less respect for elders, fathers, mothers, teachers and law enforcement. Teachers have little authority, police are constantly suspended and criticized and even military instructors are charged over the wrong comment.

This lack of authority makes the students and workers feel unsafe around bullies. Even young, “teen” elephants will calm down and stop destroying things in the company of older male elephants.

The overcrowding of classrooms, distressed family life, disconnected youth, the lack of Physical Education and exploiting media take away the confidence of young people. Instead of talking with friends (about what jerks certain people are) or taking action, children rely on the passive, media advice and ever-shifting school and work policies.

30 years ago, even when bullied at school, there were opportunities for other students to shun the bully or for the victim to fight his/her way up the food chain. Sometimes giving a bully a good threat or a kick-in-the-butt was enough to stop months and months of daily harassment and berating.

The individual has to be able to say, “Hey, that is out of line,” to the guilty parties.

In high school, I recall seeing the hockey team captain, twisting his girlfriend’s arm and laughing while she screamed. No one said anything. I was really surprised at all of the “cool” people just standing by. It was about then, I realized that “the cavalry is not coming to the rescue.” One has to rely on their own initiative for self-protection.

Later, in the military, I saw a trial of a trainee who committed sexual assault and clinically mentally ill instructor bully, harass and hurt trainees and staff. None of the high commands did anything until I took unofficial action against both of these criminals.

This does not mean physically harming others or doing malicious acts. Even self-defence involves humane “reasonable force.” It does mean that the person has to build some moral fibre and self-confidence on their own. While they do not have to buy a gun, hire a bodyguard or become a martial arts master. It does mean having a sense of self and self-confidence. That can only happen with the individual and not over-sensitivity or over-protection.

The “karate-mill” martial arts businesses are not really doing much service, either. They water down their training to gain more students and leave many students with a false sense of confidence.

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0044 Understanding Bullying and how to disempower it.

August 19, 2013September 16, 2024Self Discovery Wisdom Podcast 3 Comments

Their Story Matters presents a show that Originally Aired on 09-05-2013 on Positive Living Vibrations with Sara Troy and her guests Faisal Khattak and Tracy McGee and Susan Turnbull on bullying.

The need to understand bullying and how to stop it all while empowering the bullied.

Susan Turnbull is a Transformational “Beliefs” Coach, Emotional Energy Specialist, Human Design Specialist, Bio-Kinesiology Facilitator, Speaker, Author and Radio Show Host. Susan’s proprietary “Beliefs Breakthrough Belief Assessments” is unprecedented in the area of beliefs coaching today and she has successfully coached an International clientele for well over 14 years.

Another area of expertise for Susan for well over 10 years has been working with the “at risk” population between the ages of 14 and 21. Susan has successfully implemented many coaching programs helping young people overcome and shift the beliefs that drive the behaviours creating adversity in their lives.

Currently, Susan is launching a groundbreaking a new coaching program for “At-Risk” youth called P.A.L.S (Positive Actions for Life Success). This program will assist these young people in not only identifying the beliefs that create abusive behaviours but help those identified as victims of this abuse in becoming more empowered.

Both bullies and victims come from a place of feeling disenfranchised and powerless. Getting to the root cause of these beliefs, feelings and behaviours and offering cutting-edge tools and techniques for shifting these beliefs and behaviours is at the core of Susan’s groundbreaking new program.

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Faisal Khattak

Faisal Khattak aka Big Dög is a dynamic Anti-bullying Speaker and Certified Anti-Bullying Coach. He is an alumni of Baron Mastery Authentic Speakers Academy for Leadership. He is also Licensed Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, a Certified Hypnotherapist, and the author of the upcoming book entitled “The Bully Mind”.

Faisal wants to put a stop to bullying.

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It is vital to recognise that feelings are a reflection of our current situation and our attachment to what has been lost or threatened. The pain we feel is valid and understandable. Working through our pain begins with permission; permission to have our feelings, whatever they are.

Healing occurs when we are surrounded by people we trust, who
listen to our pain, allow us our tears, and hold us (physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and prayerfully) while we work through the struggle.

Acceptance and Peace can be achieved through the therapeutic process.

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0022 “Stop the Bullying” at the core and create Victors not victims.

July 2, 2013July 18, 2021Self Discovery Wisdom Podcast 1 Comment

Positive Living Vibrations with Sara TROY and Introducing Faisal Khattak on understanding the Root of Bullying. Originally Aired 7-23-2013.

Faisal Khattak aka Big Dög is a d1ynamic Anti-bullying Speaker and Certified Anti-Bullying Coach. He is an alumnus of Baron Mastery Authentic Speakers Academy for Leadership. He is also Licensed Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, a Certified Hypnotherapist, and the author of the upcoming book entitled “The Bully Mind”.

As a victim of childhood bullying himself, Faisal wants to put a stop to bullying.

Faisal wants to be the voice for all those kids who are raped and teased every day. He feels strongly that no child has to feel helpless and alone. He learned the hard way how important it is to build bridges and repair any gaps or disconnects in communication between parents and their children and now he is actively helping families faced with bullying. Once and for all he wants to help those kids who feel the same way he did as a child in Pakistan when he was bullied and molested at age five. He lost his confidence and voice. And he desperately wished he had someone to talk to. But there was no one to help and he continued to be bullied all through his school years.

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