Sara’s View of Life with Sara Troy, on air from January 27th

“Perhaps one did not want to be loved so much as to be understood.” George Orwell Quote

In a world fluent in public affection yet often clumsy with private listening, the sentence feels less like literature and more like a personal confession overheard.

To be loved can mean to be admired, desired, praised, or claimed. But to be understood requires something rarer: attention without agenda, listening without interruption, presence without the need to fix or reshape. Understanding asks us to sit with another’s inner weather, the contradictions, the unfinished thoughts, the unpolished truths, without turning away.

Many of us have been loved loudly and still felt unseen. We have received affection that warmed the surface but never reached the deeper chambers where our real stories live. Understanding, by contrast, reaches inward. It says, I see why you are the way you are. It acknowledges context, history, wounds, and becoming.

Perhaps what the heart longs for most is not applause, nor reassurance, nor even devotion, but recognition. To be met in our inner landscape. To be known without performance. To be allowed to exist as we are, not as we are expected to be.

Within the language of Knowingness, this longing is not emotional weakness, it is wisdom asking to be heard.

Knowingness is felt in the heart.
The heart is the tuning fork. It is where truth is first felt before it is ever named. The heart responds with resonance or resistance, with a quiet yes or a subtle no. It does not analyze; it recognizes. When we feel understood at the heart level, there is a sense of safety, a softening, a feeling of being met without explanation. The heart says, This feels true.

Knowingness comes from the soul.
The soul is the divine connection to wisdom, the place where truth is received, whole and intact. It carries memory, meaning, and purpose beyond the moment. The soul understands the why beneath our feelings, the life lived, the lessons learned, the wounds carried, and the wisdom earned. When the soul is understood, we feel seen beyond our roles and stories. We feel recognized in our essence, not judged by our expression. The soul says, This is who I am becoming, this is who I am.

Knowingness is activated through the spirit.
Spirit is the life force that moves truth into expression. It is where courage rises, where insight becomes action, where wisdom finds breath and voice. Spirit bridges the inner and outer worlds, it turns knowing into doing, understanding into living integrity. When spirit is engaged, truth does not remain quiet or contained; it steps forward. Spirit says, I am ready to live this.

Only then does Knowingness rise into the mind.
The mind’s role is not to lead, but to serve, to translate, articulate, and apply what the heart has felt, the soul has received, and the spirit has already set in motion. When the mind listens instead of dominates, it gains clarity rather than control. It knows what information is relevant now. It chooses wisely, not fearfully. The mind says, Now I understand what to do.

When heart, soul, spirit, and mind are aligned, understanding becomes embodied. We are no longer chasing love, approval, or certainty outside ourselves. We are grounded in an inner coherence that guides our decisions, relationships, and actions. This is the difference between reacting and responding, between noise and knowing.

Perhaps this is why being understood feels more vital than being loved.
Love can exist without depth.
But understanding, true understanding, honours the heart, receives the soul’s truth, ignites the spirit, and steadies the mind.

That is Knowingness.
Not something we learn, but something we remember.
Not something we force, but something we feel, recognize, and then live and BECOME.

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