by Dianne Shaver. Success Development at “Entrepreneur Mind World”.

Being human means that things do not always go well. It’s easy to feel successful and happy when everything is humming along. But what do we do when things go awry? Most of us get angry at circumstances or at ourselves. “How could you be so stupid?” is not an unusual response to either small or large disasters. Or, we feel guilty or inadequate, or that we are a failure. In severe cases, suicide might be considered as an alternative to deeply hurtful feelings.

But what if there is another approach? What if we could tie the things that seem to go wrong for us to patterns that play out in our life? What if instead of blame we became interested in why this particular thing is going on. The proper question would be – “What is this teaching me?” or “Where has this or something similar happened before in my life?”

For some, the pattern would be when things are going along smoothly, the proverbial wrench gets thrown into their life. As if they don’t deserve to have things go well. Which probably started as a pattern from childhood, when at play, someone stopped them and scolded and joy turned to upset. Or any of a hundred scenarios. Or as a child being accused of something of which you had no knowledge. Those things will set up a pattern and until it gets healed it will keep repeating. Healing in this context means that the pattern is seen for what it is – something from the past that has gotten incorporated into a precise and repeating format when certain parameters are met. Once it’s recognized and understood it loses its power and does not need to keep happening. You’ve gotten the message and healed it.

There are as many patterns as there are people. What’s interesting is each person’s pattern is very precise and the circumstances have to fit. The ingredients need to be exact, although until examined they may not seem so. But they are. In fact, there is a discipline in the counseling world called Systems Theory which describes these occurrences. Families as a whole also have patterns which can be recognized and healed as well.

One pattern that’s fairly prevalent is when there is a disruption every precise number of years. For instance, someone changes careers every 10 years or a person moves every 8 years, etc. These patterns will keep repeating until there is a recognition of their origin and what the original event was. Then the “spell” is broken.

Being curious about why something repeats in our life is more productive than blaming ourself or others when things don’t go as planned. It’s the time to step back and start looking to see what circumstances keep coming up. What are the similarities each time? Then asking the question, “What can I learn from this?” “How can I use this to understand myself and my life better?” It might take some time for the answer to come, but you will find it Then it moves us out of victimhood into a position of power in our life. It means we understand ourself better.There is the added bonus that we begin to see patterns in other’s lives and we can be more compassionate because, just like us they are trying to understand and learn.

Have fun looking for your patterns and changing them.

Dianne

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Ideas can come from some pretty unexpected places. I was reading a Patagonia catalog which, these days is filled with stories about the outdoor way of life in a very philosophical, insightful way when one hit.In this particular article they talked about those who ski real mountains, not the groomed trails, the really hair-raising sheer drop ones. The people they talked about were farmers in the warmer months and skiers when deep snow arrived.

But, the thing that got me thinking was when they spoke about how we are so insulated and isolated from nature. We do everything we can to keep it at bay and seldom in it when it’s raw. Then it hit me – what if the climate crisis had a really positive effect? If you think that everything happens for the ultimate good, which I do (even the hard stuff, even when I lose sight of it), then there is good that will come from this crisis.

It went further.  What if the climate crisis existed to bring us back to interface with real nature again, not quite as when we had just started to walk upright, but still in the earlier days of humanity?What if the gift of this is to help us remember that we are animals. Maybe highly developed for the most part, but still animals. And that as such we are meant to interact with the natural world, not insulate ourselves from it. I think what’s going on in our climate is a combination of many things, but here we are, whatever the cause. And, now we have to deal with it. No government, no organization can insulate us from it. It is here. It reminds us that nature is larger and stronger than we are. We have to learn to live with her. It might mean that we move from the place we have lived for a long time as is happening in some countries. That maybe we go back to being nomads, in a sense. Obviously, as the coastlines change (they already are here in South Carolina and in Rhode Island and other states) and we begin to move to live in areas not affected by the rise of the seas we will leave the place we grew up in or the place our family has lived for generations.  We also need to move from places that are becoming arid so traditional crops will not grow. Mother Natures is having her say and we cannot ignore her. She reminds us of our place in the world. We do not dominate or subdue her, we are part of her and need to relearn how to live within her limits.

 The irony in all of this, is those who could teach us how to do that and those who have done it for many generations are the very ones whose land we have taken and whom we have placed on reservations and sought to integrate into our ways. The Native Americans and all indigenous peoples. They knew the secrets of living with nature that we so desperately need now. Our solutions usually create more problems because we have not learned how to live with nature. We seek to keep her at bay or subdue her. That is no longer working. And, it will only become more obvious as time goes on.

But, if we are wise enough to learn a new way (actually the old way) of living with nature, we might just be okay. If we continue on the course of thinking humans know better and nature is there at our command, we will learn the hard way.

 One of the ways humans are seeking to deal with this crisis is not to deal with it. The idea of moving to other planets where we can repeat our pattern of ignoring nature is coming up. But even there we will have to deal with a hostile ecosystem. In the end we will learn we are just part of a much larger pattern. We are not the central focus and we never were.

 Have fun learning from nature.

Best, Dianne 

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