Ask Sara with Sara Troy Aired December 16th on

I started out like every human does — a child, small and unknowing, unaware of all that life would ask of me. My environment and the intentions of my family shaped me. Many dreams were placed upon me, yet not much was truly expected of me. I learned to wish for a life I didn’t believe I could reach, to want things I was told I’d never become.

My desires didn’t match my confidence, and my self-worth sat too low to reach for the stars. This isn’t a “woe is me” story — it’s a familiar one, lived by far too many. The dysfunctional raise the next generation in a world that is, itself, dysfunctional.

Television shows us the ideal family — the picture-perfect standard we’re told to uphold.

But in whose world?
By whose evaluation?
And why do we believe that perfection is the norm?

We cling to the idea that there is one correct foundation for family and life — but who defined that standard? What does normal even mean, and who gets to apply that label?

If a child is loved, fed, housed, and nurtured — if they are seen, valued, and given time — is that not the true definition of family wholeness?

We are all flawed. No one escapes that. But flaws do not make us bad. Life is a classroom, and learning is the curriculum — not living up to someone’s unrealistic expectations, but living by the guidance of one’s own conscience.

Each generation hopes the next will learn better, grow wiser, and rise beyond the mistakes of the past. We forget that everyone is a student in the classroom of life — learning in different ways, through different experiences.

It’s easy to judge our parents for what they didn’t do right.
Harder to thank them for doing the best they could with what they knew.

So, children — be patient with us, as we have been with you. We know how hard growing up is… we’ve done it too. We know how exhausting constant change can be — because life keeps rewriting the rules.

That’s why I say:
Live by your conscience.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Choose optimism even when the odds seem stacked against you.

And always remember:
If you believe it — the sun will rise again tomorrow.

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This Christmas go out of your way to let your parents know that you appreciate what they have done and have tried to do for you. After all, odds will be that one day you too will be a parent and all you will wish for, is your own children’s happiness, safety, health, and personal abundance. Hopefully, they will be appreciated what you did for them.

I wish you Joy, Laughter, Love, and Peace to one and all over the world this Festive Joyous Season.

Remember saying ‘Thank You’ can work miracles.

Merry Christmas & have a Mamarvellous New Year.

A Parent’s Love –

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